Criticism is to be expected if you write and self-publish. But how do you how to cope with criticism?
The one undeniable fact about writing and publishing books or expressing your opinion via a blog is that you are not going to be liked, appreciated, loved, or in some cases, even tolerated by some readers.
While some disagree politely, others can be downright rude.
There are even a few who think that throwing a few choice and personal insults are fair enough.
It can come from anywhere
Whether it be by way of a blog comment, a social media post, or very often in an online book review, they can be upsetting.
However, when you express an opinion, you have to accept that there will be the potential for criticism and that you are not going to be liked by everyone.
In some rare cases, you can even offend a few people without intending to do so.
I only mention this because I stumbled across an article on another blog, by sheer accident, which linked back to one of my blog posts.
The article was well written, and while agreeing with some of my points, it disagreed with others.
In all, it was an honest opinion, and I appreciated the link back, and quotes, and posted a comment saying so.
What I didn’t appreciate, however, was a lengthy anonymous comment on this post that was particularly nasty.
It didn’t comment on the actual post but launched into a personal attack on me directly.
While I just ‘copped it sweet,’ I did find it distasteful that this anonymous commenter had obviously read my original post but was a little shy in posting the attack on my blog.
As a writer, you need to learn how to deal with unfair criticism and negative feedback and learn how to cope with criticism.
While in 99% of cases, criticism is constructive; destructive criticism is tough to swallow.
So you need ways to deal with it.
So what do you do when the brickbats start arriving?
The first answer to handling negative criticism is not to take it personally. The second is to then do nothing whatsoever.
Just as I have the right to express my opinion in whatever forum I feel inclined, so does everyone else, including the not so nice commenter I mentioned.
But as I have said before in some of my posts about communication on the Internet, never ‘flare.’
By that, I mean, never enter into an argument or try to justify yourself with emotive reactions online.
People who post very mean reviews or insulting negative comments are usually attention seekers. They thrive on knowing they have succeeded. So don’t give them that satisfaction.
Just accept that criticism and even personal attacks will and do happen if you are a self-published author and are active on the Internet.
Just ‘cop it sweet,’ in silence.
It is the same advice I give for handling very negative book reviews. Ignore them.
Inflaming a situation by reacting and replying to a bad review will only make you both look stupid.
It’s far better for only one person to look very silly and for you to rise above it all.
Accept that you will get criticism and the occasional mild insult. It’s part of your job as a writer and author. Then, when it happens, do your best to ignore it completely.